The debate, about whether or not, a child has a debt owed to parents has been reoccurring on the social media for quite some while and in the past few days, the debate is back again, with the online community divided into two groups.

One group is of the view that children do not owe their parents anything, while the other feel otherwise.

In contributing to this debate, my opinion is strictly based on the Islamic position, particularly those contained in the Quran, which is not only profound, but also alluring and warmly.

I have therefore adopted the Islamic position as my life manual, in engaging my parents.

In the holy Quran, there's a verse that talks about this matter in a simple manner.

In the verse, God said, worship nothing, except Allah. Then, it went on to say, "do good to your parents".

Of course, there are many ways to do good to your parents and taking good care of them is just one of them.

Taking care of your parents is important because, if your parents are hungry, how else would you do good to them, as directed by the Quran if not to feed them?

If they are sick, how else can you do good to them than providing medicare assistance?

If they lack shelter, how else can you be good to them than providing good home and other necessity of life that would make life better?

But come to think of it, even if the Quran didn't ask us to be good to our parents, how else can one treat someone who gave birth to you in pain and difficulty, took care of you from birth to maturity and provided, as much as they can, your needs as a person?

But again, the verse in the Quran didn't stop there, it went further to explain.

It says, if one or both of your parents become aged before you, you owe them the duty of care and good words. 

What the verse is saying is that, you don't just owe  your parents goodness in terms of material things, you also owe them good words to comfort them.

Words that would comfort them and make them feel happy and truly honoured.

In the word of the Quran
"And your Lord has decreed that you not worship anything except him, and to your parents, good treatment". 

"Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them, an expression of irritation or disapproval and do not repel, but speak to them, in noble words". 

"And lower to them, your wing of humility and say: 'My Lord! Have mercy upon my parents as they have mercy upon me, while bringing me up" [Quran 17:23-24]

If you observe carefully, the last part of the above verse noted that, as a child, you have a duty, to lay down the wing of your humility to your parents. This means that, irrespective of what you provide for them in their old age, you owe them unblemished humility.

However, I am of the opinion that, even If you are able to do the above, do not think you have been able to pay all of your debt to your parents, far from it. 

The debt, a child owes his or her parents cannot be repayed even in a thousand years. It is a debt one can never finish repaying and if you insist on paying the debt, you just have to leave this world. 

It is true, that there's only one way to pay your parents for their services to you and it is to leave this world. But unfortunately, even if you leave this world, you're still not debt free, because the cost of bringing you here in the first place can still not be paid. So, just live quietly and be grateful to them for the rest of your life.

While it is true that some parents are not so upright in their dealings, to a child, this is not a justifiable reason to default in your ordained responsibility. You owe your parents, irrespective of their character.

Although, Islam recognises both parents, mothers are given particular gratitude and respect. This can be understood better, if we reflect upon the hardships and suffering that mothers experience in their lives.

The Qur'an said: "And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is two years. Be grateful to your lord and your parents.

Let me conclude by saying that, respect for parents is so great that the child and his wealth are considered to be the property of the parents.

In a Hadith of Prophet Muhammed, a man came to the Prophet in order to resolve a dispute that he had with his father regarding a loan he had given the father, but the old was unable to pay back. 

The Prophet said to the man: "You and your wealth are property of your father."

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